Well, here's a first

The other night, something happened that's never happened before.

One of my straight, married guy friends asked me for relationship advice.

(I know what you're saying, "You have straight male friends?!") (Yes, I do. But only like 3.)

As I was saying, he started the conversation by asking if I'd ever been married. I don't like loathe this question.

So I told him no and waited for the next part.

He told me that he and his wife are having marital problems. Every few weeks, she just leaves for days without telling him. She blames him, the fact that she never dated anyone besides him before getting married, and that she "needs to find herself."

It was such a touching conversation because I knew we had a good friendship but I didn't know it was that good. I was flattered and touched that he would share this with me. He said he felt silly but I said not to worry because I'm the one who always gets called (which I don't mind) by my boys when they are having guy troubles.

He explained that his wife was having an emotional affair with a professor of hers and he just doesn't know what else to do. After seeing two of my good friends deal with this same problem last year, I knew what he was going through. She doesn't think it's a big deal. Emotional affairs, I believe, are just as bad, if not worse than physical ones.

I told him that communication is the key to any successful relationship--whether it is romantic or friendship. He agreed but still just wasn't sure what to do.

The last thing he said to me was, "How do you talk to a person who says they haven't loved you for years?"

And it broke my heart.

Relationships, are scary things which is probably the reason I avoid them.