I don't know if this is something that is true of all gay men, or just mine in general, but they are serious mama's boys.
Now, I'm not saying there is anything wrong with this. But I wonder if being close to their mothers is a factor in them being gay.
I guess it just intrigues me because I am not close to my mother at all and even think it's mildly strange the closeness my boys have with their moms.
Jesse & Brian talk to their mothers on the phone daily. Sometimes, for hours. This last weekend, Brian's mom was visiting and he was very sick. I teased him that it was good she was there since he was sick but it was very sweet to see her holding his hand and rubbing his forehead as he was lying on the couch.
Adam is very close to his mother and grandmother and talks to both multiple times throughout the week. He tells his mother almost everything and can just talk to her about anything. I keep many things from my mother and could never imagine being so open about my life with her.
Even Brady is close to his mom--despite her literal disgust of his "chosen lifestyle." When she found out he was gay, she threatened to cut him off from everything and send to reparative therapy. Yet, especially since he's been in San Francisco, they seem to have bonded. She knows he's gay and she does not like it and they just don't talk about it, but they are still very close. During his recent visit, after she picked him up from the airport, they went shopping. For Mother's Day, they went to see "Hairspray." I wonder what it was like for this homophobic mother going to a Broadway show in which the lead character is a transvestite in conservative Utah with her openly gay son?
Then, there's Scott. He's so close to his mom, he just can't think of ever leaving her. (Actually, he just likes the free rent. I mean, who doesn't?!) They talk a lot but I think he's closer to his dad. However, he often jokes that his mom still breastfeeds him. I beginning to believe it's not a joke. (DISCLAIMER: It really is a joke.)
I read some gay boys' blogs and most of them seem to be quite close to their mothers. So really, is this common among gay men?
Thursday, May 25, 2006
On being Mama's boys (not that there's anything wrong with that)
Posted by meg @ 11:29 PM
Labels: friendship, my gays, relationships
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3 things you gotta say:
I am close with my mom. When I call home more often than not it is to talk to her. Thinking back to some of the relationships I have had with guys, they were all closer with their mom than their dad. Kind of interesting. Maybe it is the fact that they both can relate to men so they have that bond. But at the same time there are girls who are daddy's little girl and are closer with their dad than mom. Interesting...
Yeah, I'm closer to my mom, but that's true of everyone in my family whether gay or straight, boy or girl. Dad's just not as easy to get close to.
I don't think I'm unusually close with her, though. Before I lived in Utah, I'd go weeks or months without a serious conversation lasting more than a few minutes.
i'm not close to my dad though either. we're just not a really tight family.
and mel, straight girls rule! you know that!
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