You're so vain

Until recently, I realized that one of my problems in life was that I was always trying to make my gays be friends with each other. It never worked and I can only begin to assume the reasons why.

I know that jealousy is one of them; I had a tendency to hang out with the more fun and entertaining ones more than the boring and depressing ones who are only friends with me because I have a title. And with this jealousy, inevitably comes the bitchy cattiness I loathe in gay men.

Now, I wouldn't normally get too upset with one gay bad-mouthing another gay but I can only take so much.

I have one gay (who shall remain nameless) who is constantly saying shit about the other gays in my life. I know he does it out of jealousy and spite because while I find them entertaining and fun, I find him annoying and stupid. It seems as if every time we have a conversation, he talks derogatory about the others. This would be normal except for two things. First, he does it ALL THE TIME. Second, he barely knows them. He has only met some of them twice and only had maybe 6 conversations with all of them in the past 4 years. He doesn't know anyone who knows them and I certainly do not talk to him about them.

I finally had enough and became very upset the other day when we were talking about how whorish gay men can be.

A snippet of our conversation:
"I really don't understand why gay men are like that at all. It's kinda sad," I said.

"Well, you know that (blank) is," he replied.

"Um, no, he's not actually."

"Oh I do. He's dirty. I could tell the first time I met him."

"Uh, no. He's really not."

"Oh really? Do you know how many guys he's had sex with?"

"Actually, I do. And, he's not dirty! Like at all. Where do you get off saying that about him? You barely know him!"

"I can just tell.'

"You don't know him! You don't know anyone who knows him! You know nothing about him! He is not dirty or a whore."

"Well, I can just tell."

"Stop saying that! You don't know him! You really need to stop talking shit about him and all my other friends. You don't know any of them, you don't talk to anyone who knows them so you really need to shut up."

I realized a long time ago that 99% of the time, people who talk badly about other people do so because of a serious lack of self-esteem.

I just don't find it necessary and highly annoying when gay men are like this. As in the words of Christian Aguilera, "You are beautiful, no matter what they say."

Oh, and get over yourself, you really aren't better than anyone!